Inspirational Sunderland bride vows to go out fighting after compiling ‘25 things to do before I die’

Kelly and Dino after their wedding at St Pauls Church, Ryhope, Sunderland.
Kelly and Dino after their wedding at St Pauls Church, Ryhope, Sunderland.
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NEW bride Kelly Bainbridge-Flor’s dying wish is to see Christmas with her husband.

The 27-year-old and fiancé Dino Flor, 30, brought forward their wedding plans after they were given the devastating news that she only had a week to live.

But inspirational Kelly, of Silksworth, has already outlived doctors’ predictions and hopes to complete her list of “25 Things To Do Before I Die”.

The call centre manager was getting her life back on track after treatment for breast cancer when she was told it had spread to her brain and that nothing more could be done to save her life.

That was eight weeks ago and Kelly is determined to make the most of every day she has left.

Kelly, who married Dino on August 22, at St Paul’s Church, Ryhope, said: “I am trying to live every day as best I can. The last prognosis I had was that I had a week to two months left.

“But I don’t feel really ill. I need help, but I am still managing to get about. I feel like I can live longer than they’ve said.”

The former Farringdon School pupil said: “We’ve made a list of 25 Things To Do Before I Die. It’s random things like try and do a trip to Paris or have a picnic on the beach.

“We are doing two things on the list every week and I want to try and get to the end of it. Sometimes I feel really tired, but I force myself to get out and make the most of every day.”

After completing her chemotherapy treatment last summer, Kelly moved to Madeira, which is where she had first met Dino, a hospital technician.

Though doctors believed her body was rid of the cancer, excruciating headaches and a subsequent brain scan revealed she had secondary cancer in her brain.

Following an initial mastectomy in 2010, Kelly opted to have her remaining healthy breast removed to prevent the cancer from returning.

She said: “I had come back to the UK in April to have the double mastectomy and all the tests had come back clear.

“The only part of my body they hadn’t tested was the brain because they said that breast cancer doesn’t usually spread to the brain.

“They’ve said it’s very rare because it’s not a tumour and it’s not in the lymph nodes. It’s actually in the cells that are renewing themselves.”

Portuguese doctors advised Kelly to go back to England for treatment to relieve the pain, but fluid build up on her brain meant the pressure in a normal plane would kill her.

So her employers paid the cost to hire a low-flying private jet, which has less pressure in the cabin, to bring her home where she could see specialists at Newcastle’s Royal Victoria Infirmary.

Friends and family have since rallied round to give Kelly and Dino their dream wedding, which included a reception at the Roker Hotel.

Kelly said: “Five people planned it for us and I told them everything we wanted.

“We thought I might only have a week left, but they managed to get it all done in four days.

“It was better than I could have imagined it to be. People had chipped in and companies donated things for our theme, which was an English Tea Party.”

As a mini honeymoon, St Benedict’s Hospice, Newcastle Road, where the couple are staying, have arranged for them to have a break at Seaham Hall.

Kelly said: “It’s going to be great to be able to unwind with Dino. It’s been a massive comfort to have him by my side. He has given up his job to be my full-time carer.

“The staff at the hospice have been fantastic too. Although it is a place for dying people, they don’t treat you like that. I want to say a massive thank you to them and all of my family for their support and care.”

To make the honeymoon special, Seaham Hall donated a meal and overnight stay.

Campbell Wedding cars, in South Shields, is donating a vintage car for them to travel to the venue and Sunderland Carers Centre has paid for treatments at the Serenity Spa.