Do you let your daughter’s boyfriend spend the night? Billy Connolly doesn’t think it’s a great idea + VIDEO

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IF you have a teenager living at home, chances are you will be able to sympathise with Billy Connolly.

The comedian revealed that the last big argument between himself and wife Pamela Stevenson was about the sensitive subject of whether their daughters should be allowed to spend the night with their boyfriends, when they stayed over at the family home.

Pamela, it turns out, was all for allowing them to share a bed,

The Big Yin, however, was not so keen on the idea.

“We argued about kids sleeping over,” he said.

“The question is, do you let your children sleep with their lovers at home or elsewhere?”

He added: “You will find that when it comes to daughters most women are for it, and most men are against it.”

It’s a dilemma Sunderland-born agony aunt Denise Robertson has come across time and time again.

But she says there is no right or wrong answer for parents trying to make their mind up.

“It’s your home, your rules,” she said. “But if your children are growing up, you have to realise there is nothing they can do at your house that they can’t do anywhere else.

“When you’re bringing up children, there’s no easy answer to anything.”

It is a judgement call, with a number of factors to take into consideration, according to the This Morning star. She said: “I would draw the line at multiple partners.

“Are you going to have a procession of people coming through your home?

“Also, if you have other, younger children, the older child has to show respect and exercise discretion.”

As for Connolly’s belief that men are naturally more protective of their daughters, Denise feels this is a notion we ought to do away with.

She fears it is having a harmful effect on young men struggling with their own feelings.

“We tend to be more protective of daughters.

“But boys can get just as hurt and the pain the feel if they get dumped is just as bad.

“We seem to think boys can’t come to any harm, but we need to wake up.

“If I had a pound for every boy who’s written to me saying he feels he’s being forced into sex by his girlfriend, I’d be in the Bahamas now.”

Ultimately, said Denise, it all comes down to your relationship with your child.

The better it is, the easier the decision will become.

“It’s very, very difficult,” she added. “There is no blanket answer.

“As far as allowing a shared bedroom is concerned, you have to be very sure it is legal and safe.

“Make sure you’ve done your duty and they know the responsibilities and that it is a sound relationship. If you have a good relationship with your child, they will respect you and they’ll live their life in a way that won’t put pressure on you.”