Baby-loss agony - 12 times

Sara and Adam Smith.''Sara Smith and Adam Smith.'Sara has had 12 miscarriages in 3 years and has started to use bellydancingto help other people.

Sara and Adam Smith.''Sara Smith and Adam Smith.'Sara has had 12 miscarriages in 3 years and has started to use bellydancingto help other people.

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A COUPLE have suffered the heartbreak of 12 miscarriages in just three years.

Sara Smith, 43, says she has been pregnant 12 times over the past 36 months, but not one of the pregnancies has lasted more than 12 weeks.

Sara, who has been in a relationship with Adam Smith, 35, for the past six years, and who has two children from a previous relationship, says she was desperate for another baby and has sought treatment after treatment – but to no avail.

And now she has been forced to give up hope after private doctors told her she has a killer gene that makes it almost impossible for her to have a full pregnancy.

Sara, of Burdon, Sunderland, said despite having so many miscarriages her want for her and Adam to have a child meant she felt unable to stop trying.

She said: “I wanted to be pregnant because Adam doesn’t have any children.

“I used to go on the internet at four or five o’clock in the morning and think there must be some other people like me.

“I couldn’t find any help. I couldn’t find anybody to talk to. I remember when I had my third miscarriage and I was looking on the internet and found a woman who had had seven.

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I thought ‘poor woman’.

“I can remember thinking there’s always someone worse off than you.

“I remember walking round going shopping and you didn’t know what you were looking for. I was like a zombie. There were times when you burst into tears. You have to learn to get strong and now I think I can help people going through a similar situation.”

Her partner Adam, said: “It’s one of the strangest things we have ever come across.

“It’s sad and very frustrating because the amount of miscarriages we have had have just been mind blowing. We have tried everything.

“Sara had injection after injection and every time we got to eight, nine and ten weeks we went from having a healthy baby to no baby. It’s testament to Sara and her personality that she’s managed to fight through it and come out a stronger person.”

The couple said after a while they stopped telling anyone that they were expecting.

They have spent thousands of pounds on steroid injections and other treatments they hoped would help but, they say, the treatments didn’t work and doctors were baffled.

And in July last year, when Sara, who is also a bellydancer, miscarried for the twelfth time she was told enough was enough - and they would have to accept they probably wouldn’t have a baby.

Sara, who has two children Brogan, 18 and Sam, 11, said: “Now I have an implant in my arm so I can’t get pregnant.

“I can have it taken out and if we win the Lottery I might and have one more try.

“But now I’ve got stronger I want to help women if they want to talk to someone.

“Today I feel like a different person. Everything in life is meant to be. It makes you sad but it’s made me stronger and there are people worse off. I have got my life back.”

Menem Yossry, a consultant gynaecologist with a special interest in fertility at Sunderland Royal, explained: “If she has a problem with her genes or her partner and it’s passed on to the baby, that’s why they have a problem and don’t survive.”

Anyone who would like to get in contact with Sara should ring 07876 248070.