Page 6 feature: The new breed of grannies
Most people see their 30s as a time to settle down, move on in their careers and start a family. But some are already becoming grandparents, as Fiona Thompson found out.
People think just because you're a grandmother you should be having nights out at the bingo.
"But, I'm not doing that and I don't see why I should."
Pauline Huntingdon does not fit the traditional stereotype of a granny – after all she's only 38.
The mum-of-three was just 18 when she had daughter Leanne. In turn, Leanne, now 21, was just 15 when she told Pauline she was pregnant.
The pair, from Edenhill, Peterlee, decided to let viewers in on what their lives are like in as part of BBC3 documentary Britain's Youngest Grannies.
The film crew followed Leanne as she brings up four-year-old daughter Casie Price, and studies psychology at East Durham and Houghall College.
The documentary also features mum Pauline, who works at Stephenson's butchers in Horden.
The pair were filmed enjoying a night out on the town together, with other partygoers showing genuine disbelief when told trendy, outgoing and fun-loving Pauline is a granny.
But what is it like being a young grandmother?
Pauline, who also has a son Josh Huntingdon, 13, and another daughter Nicole Kirkup, nine, said: "Casie is a bit like an extension to my own family.
"Nicole was only five when Casie was born. It's only when she says 'Nanna' that I realise.
"But it feels different to having your own.
"Obviously I still work, I've got to pay my mortgage, so I don't see as much of her as others might because I've not retired, so that's hard.
"But I'm still young enough to be able to be bothered to run around and hopefully, if life works out, I will be here to see Casie's children as well, which is going to be nice because not many people are able to do that.
"The worrying thing is, I could become a great-grandmother in my 50s."
Pauline and Leanne hope Casie will wait until she was older than they were to start her family.
Pauline fell pregnant with Leanne when she was 18 years old and had high hopes her own daughter would be given the opportunities she missed out on, from travelling abroad to learning to drive.
Money was so tight she had to burn old shoes and clothes to keep her and her baby daughter warm.
But she was stunned when Leanne, then a pupil at Dene Community School in Peterlee, told her she was expecting her own child at the age of 15.
While becoming a young mum may have a negative image, the women showed through the programme they are caring and devoted parents, working hard to do the best for their children and improve themselves for a better future.
Statistics show the children of teenage parents are more likely to have their own children at a young age. And, with the number of teenage pregnancies increasing nationally, the trend of younger grandmothers looks set to continue.
Pauline was shocked when she found out she herself was expecting.
She said: "Before I had Leanne I thought it would be run-of-the-mill stuff, I thought I would meet someone, get married, have a family, but in the real world, it doesn't happen like that.
"You've got your own life mapped out, but it just doesn't work."
Pauline was hurt when a clip of the documentary placed on YouTube attracted harsh comments from viewers judging their situation and Leanne was also criticised, because of her age, when she was pregnant.
However, most feedback from viewers who saw the show has been positive and has helped change perceptions of teenage pregnancy and those who become grans at an earlier age.
She said: "My first reaction when I found out about Leanne was 'you're not having it', because I just wanted so much for her.
"I wanted her to do things I never got to do.
"But as the pregnancy developed, we made the most of it and obviously I love Casie to bits."
Leanne went on to sit her GCSEs, gaining good grades, and is now managing to mix study with motherhood – with her mother proud she is working hard to make sure she has a bright future.
"Me and Leanne are a bit like sisters anyhow, we've always been close.
"But this has definitely brought us closer together" she added.
Be a Groovy Grandparent
BEING a young grandparent can be fun and games thanks to a sessions set up especially for them and their toddling grandchildren.
Seaham's Sure Start Centre hosts two weekly events called Groovy Grandparents, which gives them the chance to help the youngsters develop and get to know others.
It was launched more than three years ago, with 21 members currently joining in the events held on Monday afternoons and Wednesday mornings.
The group includes three grandads, with the ages of those taking part ranging from the late 40s to late 60s.
They can play in the sandpit and enjoy time in an outdoor play area, join in with arts and crafts, tell stories in a seated library area and use a special baby area.
It also offers healthy snack times and gives them the chance to speak to childcare experts if they need advice.
Debra Oates is a family worker at the centre, which is based at the entrance to the town's North Dock.
She said staff notice a difference in the attitudes and confidence of the grandparents in comparison to new parents.
They also attend other classes alongside the parents of the children and make the most of what's on offer.
Debra said: "They are much more self-sufficient.
"They come along and try things out and engage with the children and each other and really get involved with stuff.
"They also engage with other grandparents and they always ask questions and we're doing files to help record the child's development and they're doing too."
The groups help the children through play – but the sessions are also a bonus for the grandparents too.
Some of those who take part are looking after the children as their own sons and daughter work, but many also work themselves.
Anyone interested in finding out more about the group can tel: 581 4500.
The sessions are run from 1.30pm on Mondays and 9.30am to 11am on Wednesdays.
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